I’m a common Indian Guy!

I’m a guy. Pretty average by looks and attributes. I don’t fancy pumping my body at the gym or fancy clothes to show what is not me. I like being hygienic.My room is clean and I do take a bath daily. I don’t consider any shame in admitting that I have my set of fears too and that I believe in God.I am strong but even I have had my set of experiences that have broken me down.

I do cry when I feel like. I like cars and bikes, but I don’t think or talk about them all the time.I have friends, Some guys, and some girls.I talk to both genders frankly and freely.No, I have no intention to flirt when I ask if I could help in distress. I do check out a good looking girl but I don’t think anything beyond that.

I love to cook when I’m in the mood to.I don’t say I don’t like colors that are not meant to be like if I’m a guy. At tyms I also look forward to a romantic movie.No, I don’t fight at the smallest of rifts.I don’t mind being the pillion to a female counterpart when riding a bike.

I don’t mind if I’m loved back and shown a caring gesture.I don’t judge women and show a public discomfort to a feminine intolerance. I do have clothes other than Jeans and t-shirts.

I have attachments, I have emotions. I don’t mind having a strawberry flavored candy when I want to.i don’t mind showing my love to a person in public. I don’t drink to show my pain and don’t smoke to prove a point. I like being faithful and I’ve had my heartbroken.And many things to celebrate and embrace. I’m a guy. A common Indian Guy.

~Keshav

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I’m a common Indian Guy!

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I’m a guy. Pretty average by looks and attributes. I don’t fancy pumping my body at the gym or fancy clothes to show what is not me. I like being hygienic.My room is clean and I do take a bath daily. I don’t consider any shame in admitting that I have my set of fears too and that I believe in God.I am strong but even I have had my set of experiences that have broken me down.

I do cry when I feel like. I like cars and bikes, but I don’t think or talk about them all the time.I have friends, Some guys, and some girls.I talk to both genders frankly and freely.No, I have no intention to flirt when I ask if I could help in distress. I do check out a good looking girl but I don’t think anything beyond that.

I love to cook when I’m in the mood to.I don’t say I don’t like colors that are not meant to be like if I’m a guy. At tyms I also look forward to a romantic movie.No, I don’t fight at the smallest of rifts.I don’t mind being the pillion to a female counterpart when riding a bike.

I don’t mind if I’m loved back and shown a caring gesture.I don’t judge women and show a public discomfort to a feminine intolerance. I do have clothes other than Jeans and t-shirts.

I have attachments, I have emotions. I don’t mind having a strawberry flavored candy when I want to.i don’t mind showing my love to a person in public. I don’t drink to show my pain and don’t smoke to prove a point. I like being faithful and I’ve had my heartbroken.And many things to celebrate and embrace. I’m a guy. A common Indian Guy.

~Keshav

Human beliefs and insight

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Human beliefs are very different and interesting which makes them an incredible creature.

 

They see a girl who doesn’t speak much; seems rude, comes across as boring and unapproachable.

What they don’t know is that she has social anxiety issues, has low self-esteem, is extremely shy and doesn’t quite fit in the smoke pot group; listens to Coldplay all day, reads batman comic strips, and can beat anyone in a cake making android game.

They see a skinny girl who starves herself, changes her profile picture on daily basis and is obsessed with getting boys’ attention.

What they don’t know is that she has eating disorder and cannot gain weight because of marginal fatty liver. Also, she is borderline diabetic. And even after whole week of refraining from fries and sandwiches, she saves herself a brownie every weekend.

They see a boy who is so nerdy that he cannot even talk to girls, and always carries a book wherever he goes.

What they don’t know is that he has a lot of pressure on himself. Being a student of scholarship program, he needs 8.0 to continue his studies on the scholarship money. He needs to look after his father who is a retired army officer, and his old sick mother, who is a homemaker.

They see the popular girl – a social butterfly, who is active on all the social sites and is seen in every other party, and is currently with her seventh boyfriend.

What they don’t know is that she still misses her one true love that was the best thing to have happened to her. After he left her, she is a mess and cries herself to sleep thinking of him. She tries to find bits of him in every next guy she meets; goes to parties, carries her heart on her sleeves, tries to meet new people just to let go of him and move on somehow.

What they see is a girl with OCD – a very controlling one, tough to deal with and harder to live with.

What they don’t know is that she was five when her mother died, and ever since then, OCD is all she is left with. The control over her surroundings gives her a silent and temporary relief that everything is complete and managed and perfect, even though she feels like a big hole in her life is left unfilled and unmanaged.

What they see a boy , happy always , polite and engaged in yoga & social works . Working for others .

What they don’t see is that he had a pendulatous life and always lounge for happiness in other’s happiness.
What they see is a wild girl who parties hard, doesn’t attend classes regularly, takes photographs of herself in every place she visits and uploads them on Instagram.

What they don’t know is that she has stage three Ovarian Cancer, and has given herself an ultimatum of doing all the things she can, in the next two months, with her high school friends. And while sitting through her Chemotherapy session, she goes through those uploaded pictures and shares some of them with her grandpa.

They see a boy indulging in politics every time , making politics his daily regime.

What they don’t see is his leadership skills and his childhood dream of becoming chief minister of a state and it is very essential for him to inculcate political skills well within time.
But what they see and think is what they believe.

~ Keshav Sharma | Edited by Aashna Sharma
(Fanarchy)

Human beliefs

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Human beliefs are very different.

They see a girl who doesn’t speak much; seems rude, comes across as boring and unapproachable.

What they don’t know is that she has social anxiety issues, has low self-esteem, is extremely shy and doesn’t quite fit in the smoke pot group; listens to Coldplay all day, reads batman comic strips, and can beat anyone in a bowl game.

They see a skinny girl who starves herself, changes her profile picture on daily basis and is obsessed with getting boys’ attention.

What they don’t know is that she has eating disorder and cannot gain weight because of marginal fatty liver. Also, she is borderline diabetic. And even after whole week of refraining from fries and sandwiches, she saves herself a brownie every weekend.

They see a boy who is so nerdy that he cannot even talk to girls, and always carries a book wherever he goes.

What they don’t know is that he has a lot of pressure on himself. Being a student of scholarship program, he needs 8.0 to continue his studies on the scholarship money. He needs to look after his father who is a retired army officer, and his old sick mother, who is a homemaker.

They see the popular girl – a social butterfly, who is active on all the social sites and is seen in every other party, and is currently with her seventh boyfriend.

What they don’t know is that she still misses her one true love that was the best thing to have happened to her. After he left her, she is a mess and cries herself to sleep thinking of him. She tries to find bits of him in every next guy she meets; goes to parties, carries her heart on her sleeves, tries to meet new people just to let go of him and move on somehow.

What they see is a girl with OCD – a very controlling one, tough to deal with and harder to live with.

What they don’t know is that she was five when her mother died, and ever since then, OCD is all she is left with. The control over her surroundings gives her a silent and temporary relief that everything is complete and managed and perfect, even though she feels like a big hole in her life is left unfilled and unmanaged.

What they see a boy , happy always , polite and engaged in yoga & social works . Working for others .

What they don’t see is that he had a pendulatous life and always lounge for happiness in other’s happiness.

 

What they see is a wild girl who parties hard, doesn’t attend classes regularly, takes photographs of herself in every place she visits and uploads them on Instagram.

What they don’t know is that she has stage three Ovarian Cancer, and has given herself an ultimatum of doing all the things she can, in the next two months, with her high school friends. And while sitting through her Chemotherapy session, she goes through those uploaded pictures and shares some of them with her grandpa.

But what they see and think is what they believe.

~ Keshav Sharma | Edited by Aashna Sharma
(Fanarchy)

Eagle in storm (part 4)

  • __”If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.”

    There’s a story told about a businessman named Sushant who went to see a close and trusted friend Vikram.

    “Things are so tough,” Sushant began to say, “I feel I’m in a deep hole and every day it just seems to get deeper.”

    “Tell me the problem,” Vikram asked sympathetically.

    “Everyone is against me,” Sushant said emphatically, then began to list all the people who had undermined him and wanted to take over his company. It was a pretty impressive list.

    After a while, Vikram chipped in: “It appears almost everyone is trying to destroy you?”

    “Absolutely!” And he continued to give more detail of people and things that had conspired to undermine his business.

    “So what are you going to do?” Vikram finally asked.

    “I shall fight and fight.”

    Vikram listened and then gave this advice: “I noticed as you were speaking that you yourself do not believe that you have contributed in any way to this situation?”

    “No, I have not contributed in any way at all!”

    “I see. So what will you do?”

    “That is why I’ve come to you for help. I need to borrow some money to see me through this problem for the next few weeks.” Vikram then politely declined to give the man any assistance.

    I personally would not help such a person. Do you know why?

    # If you find yourself in a “hole” for whatever reason, the first thing you must do is to stop digging and making the hole bigger.

    # People who refuse to accept responsibility for any situation they’re in will only make the situation worse by the actions they take. If you have a problem to solve in business, don’t get distracted by looking for scapegoats or trying to mobilize political support against perceived enemies. This is why many state-owned enterprises (parastatals) find it so difficult to solve business problems.

    # If you want others to help you, you must first stop digging, let go of the shovel, and allow a trusted someone to give you a hand up!

    # To move forward, you must dust yourself off and analyze honestly how you got yourself into that hole. While you may feel a bit defeated, don’t just drown your sorrows with drink or other destructive and time wasting habits. An eagle in a storm must be alert for danger and opportunity at all times, not at risk of slamming into a cliff or falling into a different kind of hole!

    What is the Japanese proverb? “Fall down seven times, stand up eight!”

     

Friends’ wedding (short story)

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It was 5 in the evening and I was about to leave my office . “Pop pop ” my iPhone made a sound , i received an email. The wedding card of Gargi kanwar, my college friend .

Next day.

It was still dawn when I stepped out of the cab and walked towards the entry gate of the Delhi airport. The early morning February air was pleasantly cold.

I was travelling to Bengaluru to attend a college friend’s wedding. It had been four years since we graduated from the same college. This wedding was also going to be a reunion of our batchmates. But what I didn’t know was that the reunion would begin much ahead of time; right in the queue in front of the airline counter.

I was almost sure it was she. Same height! Same long hair! Same complexion! Curiosity had my eyes glued to her. And then about 60-odd seconds later, when she turned, she proved me right. My ex-girlfriend stood two places ahead of me in that queue. We had never met after the college farewell.

She tuned around and looked at me , we had an eye contact , she ignored and went ahead.
I entered the plane .
“Welcome on board Sir ” greeted air hostess.
I asked for the seat . ‘Windows seat sir’.
Satakshi’s seat was one ahead of mine . I was a bit hesitant in initiating the talk . Relationships and breakups are not rare.
Satakshi and I were in relationship for 4 year. While in our MBBS years she wanted to become a paediatrician and I orthopaedic surgeon .It was my stupidity that we got separated .

5 years ago ……..

Satakshi : How can you leave me like this? What about all the promises you made me, love?”

I: “Promises are meant to be broken, remember? I was a different person when I made them. And, I wanted to keep those promises more for my sake than for yours. By promising you an eternity, I had promised myself an eternity of happiness. But, I have changed. I cannot make any more promises I might break. I am sorry for everything. Please forgive me, if you can.”

Satakshi :”Everything? This isn’t everything! Not even close. My heart still hasn’t stopped beating. I don’t want us to end like this. I can deal with you not keeping your promises, but not with you leaving. Keep making me more promises even if you can’t keep them. And, every time you will break one, I can get one step closer to either breaking my heart or turning it as cold as yours. Perhaps, then, I might understand you better or realise that I can never understand you & make my peace with it. But, this isn’t over. It cannot end until I do.”

I: “Are you crazy? I don’t want to kill you!”

Satakshi : “What makes you think I can live without you?”

I: “This isn’t working, sweetheart! I love you & always will, but you have to acknowledge the fact that, perhaps, we’re not meant for each other.”

Satakshi : “That’s bullshit. Do you love anyone else?”

I: “No. It’s just me & my chaotic mind.”

Satakshi: “Then stay. Let me untangle your mind. And, when you find the one meant for you, I promise you, I’ll let you go. I hope he’s someone who understands when to love you & when to stop. Someone who knows when to hold you, when to just let you be & when to let go. I’m sorry that I didn’t. I hope you find someone who can love you better.”

I: “Nobody can love me better! Don’t you get it? I don’t need love. I have never been loved & it stopped mattering to me long ago. And now, it makes no difference whether someone loves me or not. But, that is not how it should be, love! You deserve someone who can appreciate your love & all that you have to offer.”

Satakshi: “Hey, nobody deserves to break my heart more than you do. So, don’t you dare insult my choice!”

I: “Oh! You still want to defend it?”

Satakshi: “Always. You may have lost faith in yourself, but I haven’t. I will always believe in you & my love. And, I will always choose you.”

I: “Wow! I don’t know whether I should applaud your love or laugh at your foolishness.”

Satakshi:Neither. Just come back, love. Keep making me those false promises. Keep telling me those sweet lies. One day, you will either fulfill those promises or bury them along with my heart. One day, I will learn to give up. And, that will be the end, my love.”

We never talk after that incident. I remember she wore blue saree in our farewell party, blue my favourite.
“We are about to land , tie up your seat belts ” announced the flight attendant.

I steeped out of the plane , ” Hey Dr satakshi ” I finally said.
Satakshi: Hi .
Remember I’m Dr. Keshav . Long time Han ! , I asked.

Satakshi: oh ya . So you too going to Gargi’s marriage.
I : yup.

We boarded a cab from kampagora international airport bengluru and headed to the venue of Gargi’s marriage.

We reached the venue .Gargi received us and was dumbstruck by seeing us together.

Gargi: welcome , good to see you together.

Suddenly Vikram and Nitin came , my close buddies and hugged me tightly.

Vikram: I always admire both of you as a couple. But prudent Han , didn’t tell me either. I always wanted to see both of you together.

I was wordless . I blushed. “Excuse us for a while “. I said .

Vikram:” Ya sure . But join me for the drinks .”

“I had no idea this gonna happen.” I said .
Satakshi: Its ok . No issues.

I: So you married ?

Satakshi: Ya . For two years. He is an officer in merchant Navy . Every year we spend two months vacations . He is very caring . Iam very lucky that I got him .

She started telling me about her husband. I had never seen her that much happier.
I wanted to tell her ‘Love please come back to my life’ but couldn’t .

“I have a six months old daughter ” she said .

To me those words seemed like the final nail in the coffin .

“Are you married she said” . “No …….. . ”
” I should join Vikram for the drinks ” I said.

Satakshi : so you started drinking !!!.

“I have changed a lot .Excuse me.” I said and left.

” Vikram Prepare a drink for me .” I said.

Vikram: Apple cider wine , your favourite.

“Thanks “, I said.

I lost. I lost her love. Probably I couldn’t get anyone like her. I wanted to her how desperately I need her back in my life . But she is happier now, may be I couldn’t make her that much happier.

She is happy. And I’m happy for her .
I have no regrets.

~ © Keshav Prasar Sharma , 2016 |

Inner calling ; WCF

imageTHE INNER CALLING : Every one is longing for a movement to change the world!
News on terrorism, violence,intolerance,hatred, social injustice,racism are very common these days . Print & electronic media are full of news like growing influence of ISIS , killing of innocent civilians by various terrorist groups.

Where the world is heading to ? Is it becoming an hostile place to live in!!.

So what is the need of the hour. Every one is longing for a movement to change the world.
As Sri Sri says , ” Unless we have stress free mind & violence free society, we can’t achieve world peace “.

Peace , harmony & feeling of oneness are the need of the hour. A movement that make people realise that we are one & it is World Cultural Festival (WCF) . It is the festival of every one who wants to bring peace to the world.

After every 4 year world witness Olympics , the great sports extravaganza to promote sportsmen spirit. Every country can’t excel in every sport like India is not very good at soccer & European countries & US at cricket, but when it comes to culture, each country have a splendid culture. Every culture gives one message ‘peace & unity are the core human values.

The Motto of WCF is “vasudev kutumbhakam” means whole world is one family.Behind every event there is divine order . On 11th, 12th & 13th of March Delhi will host one of the biggest cultural extravaganza of the world. Festival will celebrate diversity of culture from across the world while simultaneously highlight our unity as human family. 3.5 million will meditate simultaneously at one place . Meditation always helps in bringing peace to the world. With regular practice of meditation BDNF hormone secretion increases which grows the brain cells and improves our basic thought process.

Buddha once said, ” The secret of health for both mind & body is not to mourn for the past . Worry about future or anticipate troubles , but to live in the present moment wisely & earnestly”.

We the humans are made up of same physical entities as the universe. With so many signs , it is essential to understand the significance of analogous pattern between immense universe and us humans. When we are conscious about the fact that our physical body , mental traits , emotions & attitude towards everything is equivalent to the entities in the world we are able to consistently comprehend the bliss as well as the regret which is the part of living.

Just like a child is not aware of mother’s love although the child enjoys mothers love all the time. Same way we are not aware of our love in humanity. There is so much love in this world, we just need a sight to see it . WCF is an attempt to give us that sight . Let’s make this world a happier & better place to live in !!

Keshav Sharma
MBBS student